Many readers love sharing their love of books. But many readers don’t love sharing their physical books, including me!
When I was younger, I made a form for my sisters to fill out before they borrowed a book from my shelves. I’m pretty sure it was harder to borrow a book from me than our local library.In the days before book sleeves, I’m pretty sure my dad wrapped up my paperback editions of The Hunger Games trilogy in a few grocery bags before putting them in his messenger bag. Even when my mom and sisters borrow books from me now, I make sure I take the dust jacket off hardcovers beforehand and for some books, make them promise not to take the book out of the house.
As someone who takes care of her books, I do admit that I rarely lend books over the of fear them getting damaged or lost. While I’ve landed out paperbacks before and they came to me more worn out, I haven’t had a particularly bad experience lending out a book- aka the cover is ripped, pages are missing, or worse, I never get it back. I’m definitely open to lending them out to my family and one of my close reader friends, but there are certain books that will never leave my hands (or my heart!).
I think many fellow readers would agree that lending out signed books are an absolutely no-no. As someone who has received more and more signed editions, as a result of book conventions and ordering special editions, I’m actually less hesitant to lend out signed books, specifically if the book doesn’t have any special meaning to me or if I didn’t absolutely love it. However, the following books are the signed editions that I refuse to lend.
Queen of Shadows by Sarah J. Maas (& basically my other signed SJM books)- I got Queen of Shadows signed by Sarah J. Maas on her QoS book tour in 2015. This was back in the day when her events weren’t as limited and tickets weren’t as difficult to come by. This particular signing was a bit strange and took place at a Costco on a bad weather day. I think I got there 20 minutes beforehand and was one of the first people in line. Anyway, QoS is my favorite Throne of Glass book, hence why I won’t let that edition out of my sight. I also refuse to lend my other signed SJM books (Crown of Midnight, Heir of Fire, ACOTAR, and Catwoman:Soulstealer) and my ToG collector’s edition.
Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell- Fangirl is one, if not my all-time fave, of my all-time favorite books, so I’m so happy I have two signed editions of two different special editions. I’ve met Rainbow Rowell twice and she signed each copy for me. I hold the indie edition especially close to my heart because its my favorite color (the light pink) out of the 3 special editions and Rainbow Rowell signed it for me the first time I met her.
Stay Sweet by Siobhan Vivian- Again, another favorite of mine that is signed and don’t want out of my sight. While some readers love sharing their favorite books so others can also make said book a favorite, I wouldn’t want to lend a favorite in fear that it gets damaged and I wouldn’t necessarily want to be replacing editions of my faves.
Carry On by Rainbow Rowell (paperback edition)- Another Rainbow Rowell book, another signed edition. I wouldn’t lend this edition not so much because it’s a favorite, but more so because paperbacks have the tendency to get damaged even with the most care. I also just love the pullout map in the paperback edition too much to temporarily let it go.
Save the Date by Morgan Matson- I hold my copy of Save the Date close to my hear because it’s another Morgan Matson book that I utterly loved. I was also sent this finished copy by the publisher for a blog tour. Receiving this book was one of those blogger movements that made me feel so good, getting a book that I was so anticipating and ready to love.
Strange the Dreamer by Laini Taylor- Another paperback with a completely gorgeous cover that would make me live in fear over it getting damaged in the lending process.
Red, White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuistion- Red, White and Royal Blue is the most recent example where I’ve told my best friend that she had to read the book, but didn’t offer my own ARC for her to borrow. While some readers don’t see the value of ARCs after the finished book has been published, I like keeping ARCs that I especially loved. RWRB certainly falls in that category!
Starry Eyes by Jenn Bennett (UK paperback)- Although some UK editions aren’t so hard to get here in the US, they are definitely harder to replace than US editions here. I also just love Starry Eyes too much as a story to let it leave my shelves for too long.
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants by Ann Brashares- I actually would not lend all 5 books in The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series. I’ve mentioned it before on the blog, but this series means a lot to me because it was one of my first ever YA reads. I remember collecting my editions from library book sales and Barnes and Noble trips with my mom, so I also love the memories associated with getting my copies.
What books do you refuse to lend? How do you feel about book lending? Share in the comments!